My friend is Picky…
So I was sitting back in my apartment talking with my roommate, when we started to rehash a topic that we have talked about a thousand times. Tell me if you’ve had this exact same conversation…
Me - Hey so how’s so and so, are they dating anyone these days?
K - Nah, he’s crazy picky, that’s why he doesn’t have a girlfriend.
So after awhile I got to thinking…and I came up with a theory, a theory I have dubbed:
“The Picky Friend Syndrome”
How many of us have single friends that aren’t dating? I’m pretty sure everyone does, and if you don’t, then you should go get yourself some, they are often way more fun to hang out with. Anyhow, often times the reason given as to why they aren’t dating is “They are too Picky”. Though when you really really think about it, can everyone really be picky? Is that really the reason your friend isn’t dating? If you really dissect it, the answer is an emphatic NO! Not everyone can be picky and most likely that isn’t the reason they are single. Encarta defines the word picky below:
Picky - hard to please: having inflexible likes and dislikes and, therefore, being hard to please or satisfy (Encarta).
Ok, this implies that you have options, that you have the OPPORTUNITY to pick and choose. This is very very different from not having options and being picky. The truth of the matter is your friend isn’t dating isn’t because they are picky, its because no one likes them. (ouch, ok that was a bit harsh) I mean lets face the brutal facts of life, for someone to be picky about who they date, theoretically it would make sense if more than 1 person liked them. As soon as they come to this realization the sooner they will start dating. If they, and you by agreeing with them, continue to trick themselves into thinking that the reason they aren’t dating is because they are picky then they will never find someone (yes, yes, I’m exaggerating a bit, but that’s for dramatization).
Solution
I would be remiss if I didn’t provide a 3 step solution to your picky friends woes. I mean it does no one any good to be all doom and gloom. So here they are 3 steps to dating happiness:
1. Stop deluding yourself - Brad Pitt is picky. Angelina Jolie is picky. You are not picky. Confidence is good, delusions of grandeur, not so much.
2. Always go on the date - Remember it’s about having the option to be picky. Plus you never know maybe you aren’t that picky, and someone you would have never considered is a great match for you.
Ok, I guess it’s only a 2 step process. Seriously it’s that simple. So good luck and safe travels.
Retired Bachelor @ September 25, 2007